Wednesday, 7 March 2012
quote [ By ... refusing to gender us appropriately, refusing to use the appropriate pronouns, ... it is possible to sweep all the questions aside.
By ... insisting on your right to “sir” us, and all the little games cis people play in daily interactions where they assert who has control of the discourse, it is possible to keep trans people forever in a position of vulnerability, perpetually dependent on external validations and mercies ... ]
Given that I have ended up on the unpleasant end of the quoted behaviors here, in the corner of the web that I've considered a "home" for almost a decade, I ask that you take this opportunity to explore some of the reasons you might have had difficulty with our conversations, and to understand that we are all subject to motivations that escape our surface cognition.[by skainsmate@1:40pmGMT] [+10 Interesting]
(The Quoted Text section didn't have room for the following, so here is more SE thinking I wanted to address: "We’re 'just' trying to get attention. ... We’re 'just' unable to think outside of gender boxes and labels. ... We’re 'just' buying into outdated binaries.")
None of this makes you a bad person, and the ability to change your mind takes an uncommon amount of integrity.
Center for Gender Sanity's Diagram of Sex and Gender
13 Myths and Misconceptions About Trans Women